The Post Blogging Event Comedown

Sunday, 16 April 2017

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Do you ever feel mentally and emotionally drained following a blogging event? Do you ever feel like people were not at all impressed by the IRL (in real life) version of you? Do you ever feel like you were not perceived as being "authentic" enough? If you answered yes to the former, you are probably experiencing something I like to call: The Post Blogging Event Comedown.

What is the Post Blogging Event Comedown?

Post Blogging Event Comedown - A feeling of sadness, critique and disappointment after attending an event to which you were previously feeling very happy and excited about.

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Blogging events, along with the eclectic array of people you meet is perhaps one of my favourite things about being a blogger and being a part of the blogosphere. Blogging events allow you to put social media handles to faces and also interact with like-minded individuals that make you feel a little bit less weird about yourself. They are a great place to meet people, they are a great place to network with brands, but they are also a place in which introversion, low self esteem and lack of confidence and self-belief, can fester and grow into something of a battle for the sufferer, post event.

I attended BlogCon London hosted by Scarlett London, a few weeks back now, and while the event was absolutely wonderful, as I was able to meet so many cool and like minded individuals, I couldn't help but feel a little bit down once I had reached home.

I don't really know how to explain it, but recently, each time I have attended a blogging event, I have constantly been plagued with insecurity woes, self- critique and worry.
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I constantly feel that they are perceiving me to be this weird, introverted, boring blogger, who is ugly and boring to talk to. Whenever I speak to brands and bloggers, there's always this little voice in my head telling me that "I'm not being funny enough" or "Conversationally, you're not being interesting enough" and that these amazing bloggers who I feel I have SO much in common with and feel SO inspired by, are just being nice and saving face in talking and interacting with me...And that's just at the event.

By the time I reach home, these horrible negative thoughts have escalated far beyond my control. I experience a significant drop in my mood and am taken to a place of such a darkness and despair, I fear that I'll ever be able to crawl back to that happy place I was so happy to be in, just a few hours prior.

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Why is it a Problem?

You see, for the most part, so much of my character is about being positive, it's about recognising the greener grass and feeling happier because of it. It's about not caring about what other people think and just doing me. But for a smaller part, about 10% of my character, has always been about wanting to please people - I crave it, I live for it, I strive for it.  I have always felt the need to please people and appear perfect and appealing in their eyes. And yes, perhaps this is my lack of self-esteem shooting up to rear it's evil head and perhaps I'm just not as happy-go-lucky as I once thought I was, but whatever it is, it's giving me a comedown like no other, and it's something I would really like to tackle.
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The photos featured in this post, were taken following another blogging event I attended recently: The Bloggers Market and even though I appear to be my usual smiling self, the post event comedown was well and truly bubbling away beneath my skin's surface. My mood was dropping, the self-doubt was kicking in and I was beginning to wonder whether I would ever feel happy within myself again, because of this deep, dark feeling of low-self esteem.

I'm in a complex. I love blogging events, I love meeting up with new and old faces. I love getting to know a brand and being able to hang and mellow into an environment with people that are so very like myself, so very creative and so very inspiring. I love the events, I love the anticipation leading up to the events, however I despise everything else following the event and the way that it makes me feel, so I don't really know how to combat this issue. Perhaps I need to engage in some self-exploration and find the root cause of my need to please people and need to appear appealing to them and then move forwards from there and perhaps I need to weed out the negative people in my life and surround myself with those that are more positive and strength building. Perhaps, perhaps. I'm at a loss with this one guys and I'm not really sure how to conclude this post or how to find a solution to my problem.

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To be completely honest, I'm not entirely sure what the purpose of this post was, or whether it made any sense whatsoever (I'm currently experiencing writer's block and most days I'm struggling to string even 3 words together to make a sentence!) but I guess I just wanted to share a little bit about these weird and horrible feelings I have been experiencing following these blogging events.

If you, like me, experience the post blogging event comedown or have tips on how to deal with it, please do share them with me, it would definitely help me to feel little less alone and provide me with different ways to combat it.

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