5 Reasons Why I NEED My Space!

Sunday, 5 February 2017

99% of the time I am somewhat proud and not so proud to say, that I, Heather Chambers am indeed an introvert, hermit crab and serial isolator. Look, don't get me wrong, I like people, I like being around people. I like laughing with people, I even like getting drunk with people - but that's another story for another post. Basically, what I'm trying to say is that I like people, but I like being on my own a hell of a lot more and people (especially guys) don't always, necessarily understand why I frequently need to spend time on my own and why I find it comforting to retreat into my shell every now and again.

Here I have listed the 5 MAIN reasons why I need to have my space from time to time:

1) I am a thinker. I like to think. Mostly my thoughts are shallow and usually fall along the lines of 'What am I having for dinner tonight' and 'Was that guy on the train really checking out my ass?' But every now and again, I like to think about life, religion, love and the unsolved meaning of our very existence. I think so much that, my brain goes into overdrive and I end up overthinking, daydreaming and living out my days in an absent minded frenzy. Anyway, what I'm trying to say is, I need my space to think these wild thoughts, just like an artist needs their studio or a runner needs a track. I'm a thinker and I need my space.

2) I am terrible at being social. I basically suck at it. Over the years I have managed to perfect the art of pesudo socialising. But the majority of the time, there is only so many social situations I can take before I start to get tired, run out of interesting things to say and completely shut down. I don't mean to be this way, it's just part of my introvert tendencies and something I unfortunately can't help. After a day of socialising I will always need some time away to recharge and rest up after exhausting myself in chatting and struggling to keep up with conversations.

3) I don't like to burden people. Whenever I'm going through a hard time, you'll probably spot it, in the way that I slowly start to isolate myself. Now while isolating yourself with your problems is never really a good idea, it's one of the ways that I am able to reflect on what i'm going through and it's my chance to try to come up with ways to nip the problem in the bud.

4) I grew up with just my immediate family. Most of our extended family members either lived in a different city or a different country at least 5000 miles away. 90% of the time a lot of what we did, was together as a 4 or as a 5.  I'm not used to large group gatherings because I never went to any. It was always just us. And I guess in a way when you aren't used to doing something, when you start doing it, it can be a struggle. When I go to large group gatherings now I find it weird and feel slightly out of place. I start to crave the comfort of a more smaller and intimate gathering, with only 3 or 4 people. When this happens I feel the need to recluse because being in such a large group is just way too overwhelming for me!

5) People are horrid. Not all, but a lot of the ones I read about and a small minority of the ones I have had the displeasure of meeting are. There is no denying that humans suck major balls around 75-80% of the time. They kill, they shame, they ridicule and for what? All for their own selfish, personal desires. Human beings can be so selfish sometimes and sometimes I just need to shut myself away from the world, away with my thoughts and away in the solitude of my own fruitful mind.

So yeah, those are the 5 reasons why I need my space, I promise I'm not a hater of people (Even though from this post it might sound that way) It's just sometimes due to my personal characteristics and experience, I need time away from large groups to relax, think quietly or just simply recharge. And while I know that some people need to be around others as a coping mechanism, I sometimes need the opposite and need to be away in order to progress and that's just the way it is.

1 comment:

  1. I can relate to so many of these! Glad to know I'm not alone :)



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