8 Ways to Not Give a Flying Fuck!

Thursday, 7 April 2016

Oh how fitting this blog post seems. Following on from my 'I'm Tired' post, which chronicled my hard-working, over-achieving, perfectionist ass-like ways. I really am keen to start caring less about trying to achieve more things and to just live. And in order to do that, I need to learn to not give as many fucks (excuse my language folks - but we're all adults here right?) about things as I used to.

You see, with the over achieving comes the caring - about EVERY-LITTLE-THING! All I used to think about was my career, being successful, making my parents proud, keeping up with my friends and trying my hardest not to fuck up! In the hope that everything would stay P-E-R-F-E-C-T and I would be the model human being that I craved so hard to be. But fast forward to present day, this very moment infact, and I am ready to start singing a new song. 

I don't want to constantly worry about how old I will be once I finish my clinical psychology training, nor should I worry about the fact that I will probably end up a spinster 20 years down the line, living in a one bedroom flat in Clerkenwell (beauty of a place and my dream 'settling down' location') with 20 cats (Is that really so bad anyway?). Today, right now, is the dawn of a new era for Heather. And it is called 'The era of not giving a flying fuck!' A-MEN! And I would love for you guys to have a read of the 8 ways that I intend to do that! Please...do read on for some 'no fucks given wisdom'

1. Fucking Laugh:
I have a love/hate relationship with laughter. I love to laugh, but sometimes people tell me that I laugh too much for my own good! How the hell can anyone ever laugh too much for their own good? When it's actually beneficial to them. Laughing has got me through some of the toughest times, it's how I stay strong, so from now on, no fucks will be given about laughing! I'll fucking laugh at a Ben Stiller movie and I'll fucking laugh when people say the word 'Willy'. I'm not immature, I just adore laughing and I adore life. End-of-fucking-story.

2. Fucking Cry:
You can't have laughter without tears, they go hand in hand! For so long I put up this tough exterior. I've always been the optimistic one, the one to hold everything together, when it seems like it's all falling apart and in being this person, I hid my feelings, I stopped myself from crying because I thought it made me weak. But no more, no fucking more! I will cry when my PMS is driving me crazy and I will cry when I break a bloody nail (cliche I know!) just let me fuckkking cry goddammit! 

3. Blog whatever the fuck you want: 
There's so much pressure nowadays to find yourself a blogging niche and stick to it. And while I do believe this can be beneficial in growing your audience and taking those crucial steps to becoming a full-time blogger, it's not THE be and fucking end all of your blogging life. Blog about fashion - if that's what you love, but don't be afraid to blog about love & sex and...sloths (if that's what tickles your fancy!) and everything else in between!

4. Live for your own fucking happiness and not the approval of others: 
For so long, I seeked the approval of so many people. My parents, my teachers, my co-workers, my friends...my cat(?) I seeked approval from every fucking person under the sun, apart from myself and I ended up sacrificing my own happiness because of it. From now on, those days are done! I will be seeking my own approval and I will live for my own fucking happiness - PERIOD!

5. Wear whatever the fuck you want:
I like to wear and style oversized men clothing sometimes. What's so wrong with that huh? Nothing, that's what! I stopped dressing for people a long time ago. Fashion is a way for people to express who they are, so why should we let others dictate how we express ourselves? We shouldn't! Guys, you wear your make -up and your heels, if it makes you feel good, why not? And Girls you wear those short skirts - If it gives you the confidence - go for it! 

6. Date whoever the fuck you want: 
This is the 21st fucking century! Who the hell cares whether the person is black, white, yellow or cerulean fucking blue. All I really care about is the connection that I have with the person and whether he shares my love for a certain Gryffindor wizard with round shaped spectacles! To hell with 'You need to date someone your own age' or 'You need to marry someone who's the same colour as you' I'm done with-it-ALL. No-fucks-given!

7. Fucking do you boo: 
Just do you boo. That is all.

8. Fuck the world: 
I'm so tired of society telling me to do this and telling me to do that. I'm tired of people assuming I'm a lesbian  just because I enjoy dressing androgynous. I'm tired of people saying that I need to stop swearing so much becuase it's unlady like! Who the hell are you to tell me that? Just let me live my fucking life and all you judgemental, conformists can live yours!

And that concludes today's lesson on how to not give a flying fuck guys HA! But in all honesty, I've had enough of living my life in such a controlled, conventional way. I cared too much about too many things and I kind of want to try to see what it's like to not care so much! It's time for me to not give a fuck! I do really hope you enjoyed reading this post and I would love to hear if you yourself have any tips on not giving a fuck! Please leave any suggestions in the comments below! As for now, I'll leave you with this candid photo of me most definitely NOT giving a fuck...#Nofucksgiven.

P.S. Apologies for the amount of times I have spewed the word 'Fuck' all over this page, I couldn't think of a better way to emphasise my feelings!

As always, thank you lovelies so much for reading! Until next time, I'm...

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    1. Hehe yas! Thank you for commenting lovely! :)

      Heather Xx

  2. Omg I love this!! Fucking do you boo!!!!

  3. Omg I love this!! Fucking do you boo!!!!

  4. YES! Preach!!!!


  5. I know how you feel - I was the same way until recently. I was always doing my best to be perfect, live up to other people's expectations and seek validation and approval from others, but I ended up feeling depressed and miserable, and my efforts were never 'good enough' anyway, I was still treated poorly by so many people and I was just a disappointment in many people's eyes.

    I got so fed up of trying to fit in society's/culture's box of what I should be, sacrificing myself in the process. I got so fed up of seeking approval from others didn't care about me, treated me like rubbish and made me feel as though I was not good enough. Most of all, like yourself, I got so fed up of trying to live my life in a controlled and conventional way, because I felt miserable and unhappy all the time and I felt as though I wasn't growing and progressing as a person, I was being stifled and I was depressed because of it. I wasted my years trying to fit in with a people's expectations, and I wasted my years trying to fit in with a society that doesn't care about me anyway.

    Ever since I stopped caring I feel so much happier. What's the point in living life for others when you should live for yourself anyway? I feel much more liberated now and I feel much more capable of doing things. I do more. I am who I am and I feel as though I can be myself regardless of what people say. That's what life is supposed to be about. Your life is supposed to be about YOU.


    P.S. from experience, if someone is making you feel as though you need to 'prove' or validate yourself in some way, or if they are making you feel as though you need to seek approval from them, then they don't really have your best interests at heart.

  6. This post is fucking great girl, thanks for sharing!! :) x

    Sara / AboutLittleThiings

    1. Thank you so much Sara! I'm glad the 'Fucking' lingo is catching on, haha! :p

      Heather Xx

  7. Yes to this post! We all need to stop worrying about other people's perceptions so much and start LIVING! x



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