I Hear You Essena O'Neill, but Social Media is Real!

Tuesday, 3 November 2015

So is social media real? Err-well duh, of course it is, it's not a made up thing in our minds you know - jheeze! Ok, that was a joke, calm down! Anyhoo, moving on...

Firstly, I think the message that Essena O'Neill (whose name is beautiful by the way) is portraying is very relevant and I think it is one that needs to be heard, especially among the younger up and coming "influencers" who are growing up in a world dominated by social media. So many of them have grown up with this idealistic view of what life is like for the social media influencers at the top, and so many of them devote their lives to these people (i.e. "fan girl" culture) & at such a young age are unable to differentiate the difference between realism & something that is artificially enhanced.
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 However, this influence can be seen in and away from social media and has been for many years. Take the magazines and the glitz and glam of Hollywood for example. Individuals were being subjected to their surrealist lifestyles many years before there was social media or even technology! I personally remember being younger and looking in magazines, or watching the red carpet shows and wondering why I didn't look and talk as beautifully as they did, but over time I grew out of that. I feel like it's all down to self-love, confidence and self-esteem!

And while I think these things can be difficult to achieve in complete actuality, they are possible, they just take time. It took a lot and a heck of a long time to become comfortable in my skin and be happy with who I was, a lot of work, a lot of honesty and a lot of pain, and while I still have my insecure days. I now look at my favourite bloggers with their perfect MAC pouts and severely on trend threads and it doesn't make me sad, it doesn't kill my self-esteem, it actually inspires me to want to be the best that I can actually be and to become successful at whatever I choose to do (even if that is becoming a full time blogger/youtuber - which there is nothing wrong with doing by the way) I know my reality, I know what I stand for and I know my values and while I crave to maintain the perfect Instagram theme, with the exact amount of frame width around my photos and using the same filter for all my photos (heck - I'm a perfectionist - so sue me!) I don't ever wish to deceive people, I don't ever wish to be someone other than myself, nor do I let it stop me from actually experiencing real life! 
In all honesty it makes me sad to hear and see just how much social media life has affected Essena, I mean it clearly wasn't doing her any good! So good for her, for being that independent person and knowing when it was time for her to just time out, that's ok, it's all part of her growth. She is young and while I believe a lot of youngsters are mature beyond their youth and are comfortable being in their own skin, there are so many of them that are not and in order to get to that stage, they have to go on a journey, one which could take months or one which could take years, but we all have to endure it. 

I just think that people need to also know that it's ok to filter the heck out of your Instagram photos, just remember to use them as a source of inspiration & just stay true to yourself, as long as you're happy with that ootd which you had to wait hours for, then good for you! I'm done. I have left the video below in which Essena explains her reasons for quitting social media, if you are interesting in hearing more on the topic.
I hope you enjoyed reading this post! It's slightly different to my usual posts, but I just saw this news story doing the runs around the blogosphere and thought I would add my two-pence worth, which is literally just that and probably doesn't even make any sense...but hey ho!

Do you agree with Essena's views? Does social media life get you down? Is blogging artificial?


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14 comments:

  1. I am with you that seeing youtubers/bloggers who are now head to toe in designer gear, and have agencies and professional photographers taking their photos - it doesn't make me feel bad, it inspires me and it just makes me realise that they have worked hard to be where they are and there should not be anything negative about this. I suppose though with all the fame and popularity, considering these were everyday people for a large portion of their life already, it would be hard to adjust and deal with sometimes.. especially when there are viewers/readers leaving nasty comments!

    Anna xx

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    1. YES EXACTLY - ME TOO! It just gives me that motivation and drive too be better and work as hard as they have worked! And yes I also agree with you about your last comment, having nasty comments is definitely hard too, and can't imagine what that would be like, but I do hope she finds a way to deal with things better in the future, especially with her new online venture with her website! Thank you for commenting! :)

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  2. It's just sad because she's only 18 so it all got a bit too overwhelming for her. Hopefully she can find a better social media balance in the future!
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    1. Yeah exactly, it did get too much for her, I do hope now though that she learns from this! Thank you for commenting Jabeen! :)

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  3. Heather, this was such a well-written post and I 100% agree! We are responsible for our own actions...while it can be daunting to see the airbrushed, photo-shopped and filtered world out there, it all comes down to being happy with who you are. I agree with you, it's what you take from it. If you look at it as a way to inspire, instead of break down, you can view it completely differently! Loved this post! XO -Kim
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    1. YES exactly, we all can see things and think oh her life looks amazing, but if we are strong and happy enough in ourselves then we won't let those thoughts become us! And yes you're right it's all about what we take from it and using it as a way to inspire! Thank you for your lovely comment Kim! :)

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  4. I agree with you all the way ♥♥

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  5. I have to agree with you. I mean, props to Essena for going cold turkey but I think her experience was bad for her personally I don't think that experience is the norm for the rest of us! X

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    1. YES exactly! I just don't think she should be tarnishing the rest of us with the same dirty brush! Thank you for commenting Emma! :)

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  6. Wow those are such amazing thoughts! Its difficult to maintain a perfect instagram account looking at other bloggers but then again they are here to inspire us and not compete :)


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    1. Yes that's exactly the point, they are there to inspire! I do wish Essena the best of luck with her future endeavors whether it be with social media or not with social media! Thank you for commenting lovely! :)

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  7. I've mixed views on this. I do feel sorry for her in that her confidence and self-esteem was obviously affected by her engagement in social media, but it doesn't mean that everyone using social media is just trying to portray themselves in an artificial light. And I do worry that social media takes over people's lives so much. Maybe I'm just an old fogey!

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    1. Yes exactly! I felt sorry for her aswell, but at the same time I hate that she is making all the rest of us social media people look bad too, when the majority of us aren't! Haha, yeah I know what you mean, I think I worry about this especially for the younger generation, because they have grown up with it! :)

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