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An Almost SAD Winter

For years, as the winter season would roll around, I would hear my Mother complain and moan about the horrible English weather, about the...

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Does Monogamy Still Exist?

Monday, 4 June 2018

Guys repeat after me,"MONOGAMY isn't realistic. Monogamy isn't realistic"


I think we can all recall that very iconic, opening scene from the film 'Trainwreck', in which a younger version of Amy Schumer's character and her sister are being brainwashed, by their recently divorced father, into believing that monogamy does not exist. I remember watching that opening scene, wondering what horror their father had experienced that forced him to become so utterly bitter to such a universal life experience. What horror had he experienced that was causing him to force his innocent young daughters to believe in such a negative belief? Why was he taking away their right to free will and forming their own opinions about love and relationships?

The past month, for me, has been something of a rollercoaster. I have learnt more about myself, than I've probably learnt in my whole life. And I've taken a leap with things, that normally would have had me running a mile away. I have laughed with tears and I have cried with laughter. I have felt excitement and that great rush of joy before you embark on a chance encounter with someone kind of awesome. I also felt the sudden, intake of breath as my psyche started to process what a mess and mistake said, chance encounter was.

CAMI DRESS Tobi |
SUNGLASSES - ASOS |
  BERET- ASOS 

DISCLAIMER: The dresses featured in these photos were gifted from Tobi. However all words and images remain my own. 

What happened?

Now, recently I decided that it would be a good idea (god only knows why) to get myself back out there in the dating scene, and dear what a mistake it was. Forgive me guys for being a negative Nancy, but dating apps are damn near impossible to use now. Nearly every guy and their dog are just looking for a quick hook up.

So I gave up on the apps and I decided to give the old classic, meet-up-with-a-friend's-coolish-guy-friend-and-see-where-it-goes. Well it certainly did go. I guess you could say up, up and away, never to be seen or heard of again away. I'll spare you all the boring embarrassing  details and give it to you plain and simple...He was an arse, all he wanted was fun and it didn't work out.


How does New dating make me feel?

Now obviously I can't go into sheer detail about what went down, but I've relayed the story to a few friends and most of their reactions when I tell them the guy was an arse because all he wanted was "fun" was "so?" Which led me to thinking...Am I a prude? Am I the modern day Virgin Mary? Is it so wrong to want to be wined, dined and romanced in 2018? Why is it so hard to find a genuine guy who want the same things I do? Am I too high maintenance?!

All of these thoughts, led me to thinking about the role I play in modern day dating. I like to think, that I play the fun, loving, free spirit, with a sharp, yet sarcastic tongue, laced with undertones of chicness and dark humour. So long and short of it, I'm a pretty good catch, right? Wrong. This demeanour, somehow translates to men, as fun, flirty and f*ckable, which leads a guy to misread my eye flutter of 'I'm-here-for-the-romance signal into a let's-go-back-to-my-place command. I mean COME ON, I was just trying to be cute for pete's sake!

SWEATER DRESS - TOBI
SUNGLASSES - ASOS
 | BERET- ASOS

Is monogamy gone for good?


As I pondered on this, I started to wonder: Is monogamy gone for good? I bloody well hope not. Ever since I was a little girl, from the days of mean girls and 13 going on 30, Monogamy is all I have ever believed in. It is a way of life. It is romance and it is beauty all wrapped up in one...Well that's what it seemed to be in the past.

Maybe I watch far too many classic Hollywood movies for my own good. But is it so wrong to believe in romance? Is it so wrong to believe in two people being wholly committed to one another, far beyond the bedroom? Is it so wrong to want to be a tiny bit selfish and have one guy all for myself? I mean, I hate sharing my food, so why should I have to share my men with other women? Why can't I have my cake and eat it too? Are men just scared? There are just too many questions and not enough of them are being answered.


Is he still out there?

I have invested many, many TV years into the turbulent 'Sex and the City' love life that belonged to Carrie Bradshaw. As she bounced between Big and Aidan to Berger right back round to Big again, I slowly started believing that my Mr monogamy right is definitely out there...somewhere (?) Although fictional, the show has shown me that, somehow, someway true love will always find it's way back to you.

My special 'He' is probably off visiting the Harry Potter studio tour for the fifth time in a row, or cycling a trail in the hills of Scotland - wherever he is, I am trying with my hardest of hearts to maintain the belief that he is out there and that one day soon or in the far-off future, we will meet.

And in the words of Blair Waldorf herself..."I am someone who's not going to stop looking for love, just because I've lost it"...Wise girl that Blair was, wise girl.

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The Harsh Reality of Being a Bad Blogger

Wednesday, 30 May 2018

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Striped Top c/o - Tobi
Sunglasses - Accessorise
Hat - H&M (Similar - BLACK)
Sandals - Primark (Similar)

Hello social friends, how are you? Long time no blog. Well, I kind of need your help with that. It seems I have misplaced my blogging gene and I have fully forgotten how to blog. Cue the sad music, violins and everything else in between, because this girl is in serious need of some assistance.

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Over the past year I have felt the most detached from the blogging world than I have ever done in the entire 4 years since starting this gag. I have felt detached in a way that mimics that of a snake detaching it's body from it's old skin. I am the old skin, I feel old. I feel dated. I feel abandoned. I feel scared. Somewhere in between starting a new job, getting nominated for a blogosphere award and living my best life, I lost my blogging mojo. I lost the ability to talk about fashion's current trends and the inner workings of my psyche. And as more people who knew how to do this well became more significant, I grew more insignificant.

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Tobi Top, Tobi Crop top, Off the shoulder top, summer fashion, striped crop top, summer style, riviera style, uk bloggers, uk fashion, london style, summer, 100 ways to 30 Blog, Black British Blogger

You see, I love blogging - actually no, scratch that. I adore blogging. I adore what it has done for me and who it has helped me to become. It lifted me out of very deep and dark hole and I have never felt more grateful to an art-form. But despite the joy it has given me, it has also filled me with the most immense feeling of self-doubt, questions of self-worth and soul-crushing self-loathing. I become angry and critical when I can't keep up with weekly posts. I become desperate and dark when I experience that dreaded writers block and can't produce a post of substance for weeks. I experience the crushing feeling of guilt, when I know I have a brand collaboration deadline looming, but I can't for the bloody life of me, sit down to write the words or get my camera out to take the visuals. It is immensely frustrating and on several occasions it has even made me feel like I needed to give up blogging entirely.

And while frustrating, it is equally strange in measure. Strange, because I often have a very clear picture in my mind of the kind of story I hope to tell through the words in my blog post. However the translation from thought bubbles to keyboard typing, gets a little muddled along the way and my great, big ideas transpire to be more of a brain fart than a post of excellence.

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It's safe to say the last couple of months have had me feeling pretty crummy. All until recently...one day...something happened, something great...I got an email from Blogosphere magazine, telling me that I had been nominated for their network member award! Can you believe it? Little old me? The girl who is scatty as anything with her blogging schedule and has nothing on the blogging moguls of the world.

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Sandals - Primark (Similar)

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Something changed that day, the strong feeling of self doubt and self loathing that I was experiencing for the past few months, began to lift and my heart started to feel a little lighter. Some people may call it nothing, but to me, being nominated for that award was immensely validating. The nomination meant that somewhere out there, someone believed in me and what I do, whether it's on this blog or my everyday life, someone believed in me, even when I didn't believe in myself. Belief is hope. And hope gives us life. And that was enough for me. It filled my soul, and it is helping to bring my blogging back to life.

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Going forward, I think I have made peace with the fact that I will never be able to stick to a rigid blogging schedule, producing a certain number of posts per week and promoting the hell out of them. Unfortunately,  I just don't have the time and often the mental capacity to do so - and that's ok. Coming to terms with that, now means that my heart will be lighter, my mind will be more open and hopefully my blogging will be better because I've learnt to accept it.

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The top featured in this post was gifted to me from Tobi, one of my favourite international online stores. Their style is fresh, millennial and sassy, so if that's you, I would definitely recommend, you take a look at their clothes.The top has an off the shoulder cut and paired with flared sleeves, it's definitely the kind of sass I need my summer wardrobe! I have paired it with my favourite high waisted shorts and my favourite green space this side of London - Fryent Country Park. The sun was out, it was blissful and it made for some very fun photo-taking and a French Riviera inspired vibe that was totally my aesthetic that day.

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So I guess I kind of figured it out on my own. Maybe I never really forgot how to blog per se, perhaps I momentarily forgot who I was and what it was that I did on my blog that was special. And I guess, I slowly am finding it...one blog post at a time.

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Easy Dairy-Free Scones Recipe

Tuesday, 13 March 2018


Whether you pronounce it as Scone (S-con) OR Scone (S-cone) there is one thing you can't deny, scones are such a delicious sweet treat, that can be enjoyed for breakfast, lunch and just about every other meal in between. They are the timeless, British treat that is loved by all ages and all cultures. My mother and father are native carribeans and they absolutely adore scones. My mum particularly likes to have hers with a large cup of tea and warm, salty butter!

Now I love a good scone as much as the next person and I used to bake them all the time when I was younger. Unfortunately, I'm allergic to dairy and lactose intolerant, and for a long time I still continued to eat minimal amounts of dairy.  However, recently, my intolerance has become worse and I have had to go completely, cold turkey on all dairy products and things with traces of dairy in. Sadly, included in that list of things I could no longer eat, were - scones! I have gone over a year not eating scones, but recently I decided, that silly notion had to stop...and thus began my work on the dairy-free scone recipe.

It actually wasn't even that hard to re-create, all I did was swap around all of the dairy ingredients for dairy free ones. Now in the past when I've done this, my sweet treats often end up tasting like something out of the ground, however this time, they came out just as my old scones used to, but this time a little more healthier and balanced.



You will need...


  • 3 Tablespoons light Muscovado sugar
  • 225 Self-raising flour
  • 85g Pure dairy free sunflower spread (or any other dairy free alternative) - for the mixture and to serve
  • 1/4 Teaspoon of Himalayan pink salt ( or any other salt)
  • 1 Teaspoon of vanilla extract 
  • 1 Teaspoon of Baking powder
  • 175ml of Oat Milk (or any other dairy free milk alternative)
  • 1 Beaten Egg - for shiny, crispy tops
  • Strawberry or any other fruit jam to serve

The How to...


  1. First and foremost don't forget to pre-heat that oven, it's oh-so simple, but often the step most of us forget. So go ahead now and pre-heat your oven to 220C (gas mark 7).
  2. Place the flour, baking powder and salt into a mixing bowl, grab your spoon and mix it up. 
  3. Add the butter (cutting it into cubes can sometimes make this step easier) and work it into the flour mix with your hands until it has the texture of fine breadcrumbs.
  4. Pour the milk into a cup and heat it in the microwave for approx 30secs. Once warm, stir the lemon juice and vanilla extract into the jug of milk.
  5. Create a well in the flour mix and pour in the milk mixture, making sure you combine it all together quite quickly!
  6. Now you're ready to get handsy with the flour! Place the dough onto a lightly floured surface and sprinkle some flour onto your hands. Then combine the dough into a ball.
  7. Use a rolling pin to roll out the dough into a circular shape that is approx 4cm thick (you can use a ruler to check this).
  8. Use a 4-5cm cutter to cut into the dough. 
  9. Once you've got about 4, combine the dough back together and repeat step 7 & 8 until all the dough has been used up.
  10. Brush the tops with beaten egg and then place onto the baking tray. Bake them in the oven for approx 10-12 minutes or until golden on top.
  11. Take them out and enjoy warm, with strawberry jam and pure sunflower spread...Mmmm!

These scones are absolutely delicious and hold the same soft, sweet centre and crispy, golden shell. Also due to using dairy free milk and butter alternatives, the sugar and salt content is a hell of a lot less than if you were to use dairy ingredients. Not to mention the use of muscovado as opposed to processed white sugar. You also get a healthy influx of vitamins and minerals to add fuel to your body...who said scones couldn't be healthy?

I hope you enjoyed this recipe and if you are a dairy free gal like me, find it has come to the rescue of your scone-cold days (See what I did there!) Anyhoo, thanks again for reading guys, you da best! :)


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5 Ways to Be More Mindful in London

Saturday, 3 March 2018


London is a place of immaculate beauty. It's planes, skyscrapers and cultured inhabitants are all ingredients in a recipe that makes London a little bit spectacular. I have walked many a London Street in the many years that I have lived here and I have always deemed it to be a relaxing place. Amidst the hustle and bustle of this metropolitan like city, are multiple sights, smell and sounds, all of which can be consumed in a mindful and relaxing way.


Mindfulness is an ancient practice that allows us to become more aware of our surroundings and ourselves. It aids us to become more present, notice the everyday and basically live for the moment. I have been practicing mindfulness for almost 2 years now and have discovered London to be quite the blank canvas for mindful activity. London is full of so many opportunities to practice mindfulness, so in this post, I am going to share 5 ways that I have been doing this for the last couple of years. I hope you find it useful!

1) Take mindful Train Journey: 


Taking a train journey around London can be just as scenic as taking one in the countryside. When we're on trains we're often so fixated on getting to where we need to go that we forget to notice the actual process of getting there. So next time you hop onto a train, try to take some time to stop, look and listen to the sights, sounds and smells of the great outdoors as they hurtle past your window. It really is a relaxing thing to do and it helps to take your mind off any extra ruminations e.g. running late, wearing the wrong outfit etc.


2) Go for a night time stroll: 


Have you ever wondered around London at night? I recently got a chance to do this again for the #MegaMysteryBusTour  after not having done this in a while and I was so amazed at how much beauty goes unnoticed when rushing around during the day. Walking around the city at night, allows us to pay more attention to the finer details, buildings are often lit up with ambient lighting and everything just looks that little bit more real. This is definitely a fun way to become more aware of the beauty that resides in the world around us - even after the lights have gone out!





 3) Venture into the Unknown:



Have you ever walked around the London Streets with absolutely no idea, where you're going? This is something that I used to do all the time while I was at uni. Wandering off down side streets were probably some of my favourite adventures, when I knew not where they led but the hidden beauty I would discover at the end of them. Venturing off into the unknown is something that can help us to notice London's beauty and is something that is mindful and relaxing at the same time.


 4) Eat Out:



 Mindful eating is perhaps one of the most easily accessible mindful activities that is used by people. And if you're nothing like me (impatient food consumer for the world) you'll do fine with this practice. Mindful eating involves noticing and becoming more aware of every taste, texture, smell, shape and sound of the food that is being consumed. Why is the perfect for London you ask? Well London has the largest array of cultured restaurants that I know of and mindful eating is the perfect excuse for you to go out and try every single one. They'll allow you to become more aware of the food that you consume and in turn allow you to become more appreciative of it.

5) Just Be:


One of the easiest ways to be mindful in London is to literally 'just be'. And to just be, means to do just that. It means accepting things for what they are in the present moment, appreciating all that there is around you and living the path that your life has taken. In doing so, we often begin to feel a sense of calm within our hearts and a growing light within our souls. You should try it guys, it is a really helpful practice. 


Being more mindful in London can help us to switch off during the rush hour of a morning commute,  it can help us to appreciate the hidden beauty that lies between the lines of the city's skyscrapers. But most importantly it can help you find inner peace. And I hope that with these tips you guys can start to see London in a more mindful way.

As always thank you guys so much for reading!

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Exploring London: A #MEGAMYSTERYBUS EVENT

Thursday, 1 March 2018

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Photo's Courtesy of: Matt Chappell & Search Laboratory

I've never really coined myself as much of a detective or problem solver, however when I was contacted by Jennie from search laboratory about the #MegaMysteryBusEvent with Mega Bus UK, I couldn't help but feel excited about the prospect of channelling a lit bit of my inner CSI detective spirit for one night.


The Mystery Tour:

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The night began at the beautiful Radisson Blu Portman Hotel in where there was wine and snacks galore. Me, being the lover of wine that I am, headed straight for not one but two glasses of wine, one red (which I later regretted later on in the night as I remembered I hadn't eaten much that day!) They had a lovely selection of nibbles: mini hamburgers, meat sticks, spring rolls and more, it was a fun way to start our night of mystery and get to know the other bloggers at the event.

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After snacks and lots of excited giggles, our night of mystery began. We were joined by two police officers (actors of course!) who informed us of a mystery that we were required to solve. They talked us through the rules of the night, how to use our super top secret iPad's (made specifically for detective work) and any extra miscellaneous bits of information we needed to know. Once our briefing was over, we all gathered into our teams and made our way to the bus.

I was part of a great group of bloggers (Soeurs De Luxe, School run Beauty, Loved by Laura & Lojo vs the world ) who were able to think on their feet a lot faster than I was, so I think the event organisers knew what they were doing when they did this, haha - I was in good hands! As we made our way to the bus, we had just enough time for a group photo before we began our journey.

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Photo's Courtesy of: Matt Chappell & Search Laboratory

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Our first stop to gather clues to the puzzle was the iconic Westminster Abbey, where we came across Sherlock Holmes. Our team had no choice but to hum one of his favourite songs in order to gain vital clues for the next round. This was one of my favourite part's of the night as I was in awe at how beautiful the Abbey looked at night. We were able to see it in all it's gothic glory and that was something I was so grateful I got do while on the tour.

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After we gathered clues from the Abbey, we made our way back to the bus, so we could make our way to the final stops Trafalgar Square and Covent garden to find the final clues. While at Trafalgar Square we came across another detective: an inspector Lestrange (who oddly resembled Sherlock) to who we had to tell a joke in order to gain vital clues. It's safe to say Lestrange is a tough cookie to crack, but we were able to make him laugh eventually.

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While in Trafalgar, we strolled into a bar (As you do when you're on mystery tour) and took a group photo behind the bar to represent the photo task that was required of us "Women behind bars" our team, including the barmaid thought this was ridiculously funny and witty and carried us one step closer to cracking the code.

Our final stop carried us to Covent Garden where we were on a race to the finish to gather all of the clues to crack the code and solve the mystery. Our team, although quick in gathering clues, evidence and cracking the code, we were not quick enough to be crowned the winners and actually ended up coming in last place (a fact the competitive player in me finds very hard to admit!).  Once finished with the tour, we headed back to the cosy hues of Radisson Blu, for drinks and a chit chat with Mega Bus's mascot Sid, who was a radiating ray of happiness.

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To Conclude...


All in all I had fabulous evening. I was able to get to know new bloggers by working together to solve a mystery, all while touring the famous sights of London, which is something I have never been able to do at a Blogging event. And for that a big thank you has to go to Mega Bus UK, Search Laboratory and the Radisson Blu for putting on such a fabulous show.

Photo's Courtesy of: Matt Chappell & Search Laboratory

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Photo's Courtesy of: Matt Chappell & Search Laboratory

I would highly recommend considering Mega Bus for your next UK trip, they have a lovely team who are welcoming and kind, and a bus that is comfortable and warm, perfect for these minus temperatures we've been getting lately. Not to mention they are affordable, prices can start from as low as £1 - can you believe that?!

It was an awesome night that got my brain ticking after a long day at work and I would be more than happy to do it all over again (providing I was able to win this time). Thank you for having me Mega Bus and Search Laboratory.

As always thank you guys for reading...

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